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I’m a Political Chicken… sometimes… August 8, 2013

Filed under: Musings,Rants,Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 5:36 pm

MamaGirl says…

For those of you who only know me through the blog, I probably seem like an average, boring, stay-at-home-housewife. For those of you that know me through Facebook or, dare I say it, “real” life, you know that couldn’t be further from the truth.

I save my political rants for Facebook, and dole out the boring Mommy blog stuff on here. But the thing is, I’m very political. In fact, I’m a Liberal, feminist activist. I’m outspoken on many topics from women’s health rights to racism to welfare. I’m not afraid to jump into a conversation and piss a few people off… until it comes to the blog, then I’m a big ole chicken.

I think it has something to do with the fact that I not only know my Facebook friends, but I also have a “real friends” list, which filters who actually sees my posts. It’s a beautiful thing, really. And it permits me to be selective in who I share my thoughts with, without having to deny all of the friend requests from people I went to high school with. Because, as we all know, those faces that I haven’t laid eyes on in twenty years just can’t wait to see what all I’ve been up to! Nor can I deny them that voyeurism, as I, too, am nosy as all hell.

And I can get pretty voracious with my rants. I’ve had people un-friend me and block me. Of course, it won’t tell me who they are, so I only discover it months later when I suddenly think, “I haven’t seen anything posted by this person in a while.” And of course, by then, it’s just too late to care. Not that I necessarily would anyway, but you get the drift.

However, in case y’all haven’t noticed, some of the people on Facebook are… how should I put this… well, stupid. Even some of those on my “real friends” list are lacking in the smarts department. (I ain’t judging, I’m just telling the truth!)

But the thing is, on the blog, you open yourself up to a whole bunch of strangers. Strangers that don’t you, don’t know your sense of humor or how you live your life. And let’s face it folks, there’s a whole bunch of assholes out there. I know that eventually someone is going to bash me for my politics, they’re going to say mean, untrue things to me because the anonymity of the internet allows them that privilege. But you know, I have been known to tell a person to fuck off once or thirty times. So, I’m thinking that maybe we’ll just roll the dice and see what happens.  And I’ll write about something that matters, to me, at least. Don’t get me wrong, my kids are lovely and quite the entertaining pair, but really, if that’s what you’re looking for, there’s better Mommy blogs out there.

So, buckle up, buttercups! We’re about to get down and dirty around here. It’s okay if you don’t like it, you don’t have to, there’s an “unfollow” button around here somewhere. If you need to click it, I’ll understand.

Now, bring on the racism, classism, and sexism. Mama’s packing a lunch, ’cause kids, it’s a war out there.


I am the worst blogger EVER! July 25, 2013

Filed under: Family,Musings,Summer,Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 1:05 pm

MamaGirl says…

I am the worst blogger EVER! I thought I was going to get back into it this summer, while I was going to have all of this “down time.” And although there has been a good bit of down time, there just hasn’t been a lot of blogging going on. There’s been plenty of stuff to share my opinion about, no doubt. And we’ve even had a few great adventures this summer, but the blogging just hasn’t been happening for me. The few times that I’ve tried, the words just haven’t worked out so much. It is what it is, I guess.

So, now it’s been two months since my last post… yeah, I know, I’m pathetic. It’s not that there hasn’t been anything to write about, we’ve done all sorts of stuff this summer. I’m just super crappy at making myself sit down and write about it.

So, here’s a quick run-down: The day after the kids got out of school, we all took off for Atlanta. We dropped them off at my parents house and headed on in to the city for a weekend of partying and celebrating Hubbo’s 40th birthday. (I swear, I’ll try to write a post about it. It was a really great party). Then, at the end of that weekend, Hubbo and I took off for 6 days in south Florida. During which, the kids had their own beach vacay with their grandparents. Then, everyone reconvened back home and we spent a week or so trying to recover from all the fun we had on our vacations. There was some bike riding, but mostly we just lazied-out and played video games. Then, the kids took off, back to their grandparents, for what was supposed to be another two weeks. However, that trip was cut short by a few days so that we could fit in some camping trips. And now, we’re all back home again, trying to enjoy the few, short weeks of summer that are left.

We’re going to try to work in one more camping trip, and some hikes and bike rides. But before we know it, it’s going to be back to setting the alarms every night, back to schedules and routines, back to real life.

Summer is so sweet and so short. I love to wallow in it and enjoy every hot, sweaty moment. In fact, I like it so much, I haven’t even turned on the AC this year! (Actually, it hasn’t really stopped raining long enough to turn on the AC, but we can say it’s because I like the heat.)

So, there’s the run down on what we’ve been up to. Not too terribly exciting, but fun nonetheless. Maybe after I get this house cleaned up, I’ll sit down and write that post about Hubbo’s birthday. But don’t hold your breath, it’s just as likely that I’ll sit right back down and play a video game. Y’all hang tight. I’ll see ya when I see ya.


Walk A Mile 2013 May 20, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 12:17 am

MamaGirl says…

Today’s post is about something that happened a couple of weeks ago, but I wasn’t back in the blog-o-sphere yet, a few weeks ago, so you get to hear about it now instead! It’s actually a really cool thing that is totally worth hearing about past-tense.

On April 27th, Our Voice sponsored Walk-A-Mile Asheville 2013.

They got cool swag for raising over $100!

They got cool swag for raising over $100!

Walk-A-Mile is an event in which men wear high heels and walk a mile through downtown Asheville. The men who are participating raise funds from sponsors and, by walking, help raise awareness about violence against women.

From the moment that I mentioned it to Hubbo, he thought it was a great idea, and since it would also be hilarious, he was totally into doing it. I created him a fundraising webpage and we started recruiting funds from friends and employers.

After hearing us talk about it for a few weeks, A-Man decided that maybe he would be interested in participating too. He wasn’t as easy to convince, though. His biggest worry was that someone from school would see him and later make fun of him for it. But when I explained to him that in order for someone to see him, they would also have to be there, he warmed up to the idea a little bit. In fact, as it turned out, he wasn’t the only guy from his school who was there that morning, and all of them were participating. Middle-school-aged boys, dressed in fabulous heels, are amazing! (Okay, any man dressed in fabulous heels is amazing.)


Although it was dreary when we woke up that Saturday morning, the rain graciously held off until after the event. The crowd was impressive. Some of the most amazing heels ever seen outside of a drag show were on display. Together, my guys raised over $200 for Walk-A-Mile and Our Voice. And collectively, over $37,000 was raised for the event!

I was proud of my guys for standing up for a cause that is so dear to my heart. Most of their friends wouldn’t have participated. And if I hadn’t been so gung-ho about the whole thing, they likely wouldn’t have participated either. But they did. For me. They put on women’s heels and walked a mile through downtown Asheville, because it meant something to me. What more could a Mom ask for, really?

And in doing so, they reaffirmed their belief in equality, for women and for all people. They stood up against violence and the pressures of society that perpetuate violence. They raised their activist voices, and placed themselves in the position of the male-feminist. They are male feminists. I’m raising them well. A-Man and I had the opportunity for such conversations as enthusiastic consent and the perpetuation of violence by men.

We had a blast doing it, and when they crossed the finish line, they were both smiling! We can’t wait to do it again next year! And Hubbo says that next year, he’s getting some Hot-Mama shoes! Y’all know you don’t want to miss that!


She’s baaaaaack! May 15, 2013

Filed under: Musings,Summer,Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 9:43 pm

Has it really been nine months since I last posted on the blog? The ingenious little tracker thingy that keeps up with such irrelevant (ha,ha! but I just found the relevance, didn’t I?), mundane things says that it has. It doesn’t feel like nine months….

Those of you who know me in real life (whatever that is) know that I have been spending the past nine months deep in the recesses of the local University’s Sociology department and absorbing all that I can of all things feminist. As always, it was a heartily enlightening and educating nine months, but it’s nice to take some time off, greet the warm days of Summer with open arms, upset some earthworms by dragging a hoe through their home, and generally experience life with no schedule and on an as-I-want basis.

I am happy to tell you all that as of the close of the semester, I am now officially a Senior. I’m double-majoring (because it’ll make me more “marketable” <eye roll>), so I still have three more semesters to go, but there is an end in sight and that means that there may still be some slim ray of hope for my sanity as well.

I can’t wait to tell you all about what’s been going on in my life and, as always, share my ever so valuable opinion on all things parenting, pop culture, and feminism. Hell, who knows, maybe this time I’ll keep the blog going for more than a summer. But don’t hold your breath on that. My CPR training has expired.


September 5, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 11:47 pm

Mamagirl says…

I haven’t abandoned y’all, I swear! I’m just too damn busy to finish a blog post! I’m too busy to start one. I’ve started 3 or 4 different posts over the past week and gotten half or three-quarters of them written and then gotten busy doing something else.

I wrote one about starting back to school. I wrote one about how busy I am. There was one about a guy sleeping in the library and even one about the flat tire that I got Friday morning before we left for Atlanta. And there’s one in my head about the various fashion choices happening on campus. But I didn’t finish any of them.

I’m sorry guys. I’ll try to do better. Maybe instead of starting 4 different posts, I’ll just try to finish one post! And I haven’t been by your blog lately to read up on all of the fascinating things happening in your lives, don’t worry. I’ll be by again soon… or after grad school ends…


School Daze August 20, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 9:39 pm

MamaGirl says…

I haven’t forgotten about you, dear readers, I promise! It’s been a busy week around here. Yes, I know it’s Monday, I mean last week was busy – that’s why no new blog post.

Both of the kids started back to school last Wednesday. They both had a great first day and reported

I’m such a nerd. I LOVE school.

that they liked their teachers. A-Man re-thought his stance when he found out how uber-organized his Science teacher is (and expects her students to be).

For most of last week, I slept between the hours of 1am and 6am – only. I tell you, coffee is a hell of a drug. Then today, I started back to school. Part of the reason that I haven’t been able to write a post is because I’ve been keeping myself busy to avoid the anxiety that I was having over going back to school. I’m really not sure why. When I pulled back on to campus today, everything felt as natural as if I’d never left. And I was only gone for the summer – I’m such a dork.

I started the day with Latin I – at 9am. What was I thinking? I had to. Once you become a Junior or higher, your schedule is completely at the mercy of the college. So, 9am Latin class it is. I’m pretty sure that when the instructor was a freshman in high school, I had already failed out of college once. He looks about 28 or 29. He tells us that, in general, absences are NOT allowed. I tell him that I’m 35 years old, with 2 children, and I can almost guarantee that I’ll be absent at least once.

And then 2.5 hours of downtime. I ran some errands on campus, picked up my financial aid check, went to the bank, and still had time to come home and chat with Hubbo for about an hour.

I got a lovely surprise at the bank when I went in to make my deposit.  “Ma’am, did you know that your account is $16 in the negative?” Damn it! How did that happen? Ah well, good thing I was making a deposit, huh? I try hard to keep the account balanced, but you know, every once in a while… it just gets away from me. Anyway… that was a fun little episode of TMI about my finances.

Then it was back to campus for Survey & Social Research Methods and Feminist Theory. I’m already a little in love with one of my professors and the other I think I’m going to like a lot. These two, and tomorrow’s Sociology of Gender class, I’m really excited about. These are my major classes. They’re where I really get comfortable and open and willing to talk to a classroom full of what I can fairly consider “young people” about what life is really like, and why.

Tonight, I’ve already been reading up on Feminist Theory and I can’t WAIT to really get into the meat and potatoes of this class! I feel certain that you all will be subjected to my feminist rants sometime in the near future (I’ve been sparing you up until now). I try not to bring politics to my blog. I feel like this should be a safe space where there is no fighting and bickering over political arguments. After all, that’s what Facebook is for. But you may very well be much more educated on Social Issues and Feminism by the time my semester is over. Lucky you, huh?

I can’t imagine that any of you are as a big of a nerd as I am, so I’ll try to keep it to a minimum, but there are some things that I feel everyone should know, and those I’ll be forced to share. For tonight, I’ll just leave you with a quote that I found today:

“Masses of people think that feminism is always and only about women seeking to be equal with men. And a huge majority of these folks think feminism is anti-male. Their misunderstanding of feminist politics reflects the reality that most folks learn about feminism through patriarchal mass media.”  – bell hooks 


You always honor the sign! July 15, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — mamagirlsaysitall @ 10:39 pm

MamaGirl says…

Today, a pimply faced, twenty year old, assistant manager of Toys R Us woke up thinking that he had a cool job for someone who knew that the path to success wasn’t to be found at the local Junior College. He gelled his hair, applied some pimple cream, and put on the bright red shirt that identifies his elevated position at the world’s greatest toy store.

Unfortunately for our young hero, he had no idea that I was headed to his store today.

Mags had some birthday money and I decided that since the sky hadn’t stopped dripping liquid for three days, that an outing to Toys R Us, or We B Toys – as we often call it in our family, would be just the thing we needed to burn some time and energy – you can easily burn a few hours just wandering through the aisles.

So, off we went to the toy store. Unbeknownst to us, there was a heck of a sale going on! We scored almost $100 worth of stuff for about $35! And I immediately thought to myself, “that’s going to make a great blog post!,” and then I promptly forgot to take a picture… so use your imagination and imagine a picture with $100 worth of Littlest Pet Shop and Crayola. Picture or not, the Littlest Pet Shop stuff was buy 1 get 1 free AND if you spent $25, you got a free set of tiny, foot-embedding TRIPLET pets. (Freaking yay! Do any of you know what $100 worth of little pets and their accessories look like? Damn, I really wish I had taken a picture…). Then, the Crayola was buy 1, get TWO free! What a deal, right? I double-check the sign, “Crayola Buy 1 – Get 2 Free/Crayons, Markers, & Paper/Any product of equal or lesser value – it just occurred to me that I should have taken a picture of the sign too. Anyway, so I pick up a pack each of colored pencils, some fancy, color changing crayons, and a regular old box of 24 colors.

I didn’t get a cart when we came in, because we had originally come for one particular babydoll, that the Princess then decided was not what she wanted after all, leading to two hours of aimless wandering through every aisle in the store and eventually my having to carry the 8 different packages that we picked up before I managed to wrangle my six-year old Princess and all of the treasures that she’s acquired to the front of the store to checkout. So, with my arms completely loaded down and balancing stacks of toy boxes, and feeling like I might pass out, because it’s now 2pm and I suddenly realize that I haven’t had lunch, we go up to the customer service station, because on this Friday in the middle of summer, there are no actual register lanes open and this is our only option for checking out. The woman checking out in front of me also has crayola products.

Woman: These Crayola products, do they have to be all the same thing to get the two for free?

Cashier: Uh… I wouldn’t really know about that… we’ll see what it rings up.

Thinking that I am being helpful, I speak up from behind them: The sign said anything of equal or lesser value.

Cashier: Well, it’s not ringing up, so it must have to be the same items.

At this point, the woman who is checking out decides that she will just go back and get two more each of the items that she has so that it will ring up the way the cashier says it should, essentially just giving in and agreeing to spend a LOT more money that she had originally planned all because this cashier just said it wouldn’t ring up that way… I mean, huh?? I do not give in nearly so easy. The woman gets out of line and now it’s my turn to checkout, but like I said, I don’t give in so easy.

Me: I want you to go ahead and ring up this Pet Shop stuff and make sure that it’s going to ring up the way that it should and then we’ll deal with the Crayola.

Cashier: Yes ma’am. The Pet Shop stuff all rang up and you got a really good deal on that. (He is visibly surprised by the discount) But this Crayola stuff isn’t ringing up. But here comes the guy who can help us with it. (Enter our young hero, the assistant manager)

Me: Your sign says ‘anything of equal or lesser value’ which would indicate that you do not have to purchase three of the same item in order to get the discount.

Asst. Manager: (Smiling in a way that, in his twenty whole years of life experience, I am sure he believes is charming, but in reality is a bit creepy, especially considering that I’m technically old enough to be his mother) I think it’s a problem with the wording on the sign that’s causing the confusion.

Me: No, I know what the sign says.

Asst. Manager: Yeah, I think it’s a problem with the wording on the sign. These aren’t going to go through that way. Sorry. (He walks away to other side of the desk to indicate that that’s final.)

Me (to cashier): We will not be purchasing the Crayola then, take them off of the bill. I have worked in Customer Service for over 10 years and one of the very first rules of Customer Service is that you ALWAYS honor the sign.

Cashier: I’m sorry. I wish I had some control over it.

Me: I know that it isn’t your fault. But I’m telling you because I know that you’re going to turn around and tell HIM. (Just then, two older red-shirted management-type men walked by) Maybe someone should go tell THEM too! (I pay for my purchase) Come on, Mags! Mama has a letter to write! (I walk around the other side of the service desk and look our young hero in the eye) You ALWAYS honor the sign! (He gives me the creepy smile again)

I get all the way to the exit door, and I hear “Ma’am! Ma’am! Could you come back here? I think I can work this out!”

And in fact, he DID work it out and I left there with my crayons and my discount. And I was once again a happy customer. And that’s all great. But the thing here is this: Neither the Asst. Manager nor the Cashier were going to give us the discount, even though we told them multiple times what their own sign advertised. Neither one of them made any attempt or even offered to go and look at the sign themselves. If I hadn’t raised hell with them, who knows how many people they would have denied the discount. As it turned out, the problem was being created by one item that was technically considered colored pencils (which weren’t included in the sale) that was causing the discount not to come off in the computer. But these two young tech-savvy geniuses never even thought to try to figure out WHY the discount wasn’t being applied, they just kept looking at the computer and saying “nope, it’s not coming off.”

So, dear readers, I hope you all understand why I had to show out a little bit. Why I had to stand up for myself and the woman in front of me who was also denied the discount. It’s not a matter of money, to tell the truth, I didn’t really need to spend that extra money anyway, and besides most of it was Mags’ money. It was a matter of principle. A business has to stand behind their own advertising.

And in the end, our young hero DID do the right thing. He did make an effort, and because of that Toys R Us did not have to deal with an angry customer and our young hero could go home once again, to apply his pimple cream and launder his red shirt.

And meanwhile, I’m still trying to tear through the packaging on $100 worth of Littlest Pet Shops…


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